I have a good relationship with my hubby - I love him more every day. But.
He has his hobbies - music, graphic design. I can't seem to get into my own hobbies too much (I like to bead), except for reading and watching TV. So these days, while I'm just WAITING for a start date on my job, I find myself with alot of time on my hands - and no money to really do anything. I know, the Smithsonian museums are free, but getting the motivation to go downtown on my own is hard. 'Specially when checking out new museums is something hubby and I would like to do together.
Like tonight. He had to leave at 4:30 for his music event and won't be back till late...so I'm sitting all alone with the dog. This happened this past Friday too. Actually, Friday made me realize that I DON'T have any "local" friends (I've got some very good long-distance friends). No one to just call up and say "hey, wannna go grab some dinner?" or "wanna go wander a museum?" or just grab a cuppa with. I love to play board games, but hubby isn't into that too much. I tried to start up a game night with the couple next door - they're quite nice. But I guess either hubbs and I are a bit too different, or the age difference (they're younger) made it less appealing.
I really hate being so very lonely when I'm in such a good marriage. It just feels so wrong. But where the hell is a 40-something woman supposed to meet friends? I don't go to bars unless I'm with my hubby. I walk the dog. I like getting mani/pedis but since I'm basically unemployed that isn't feasible at the moment. Jeeze, I've even been skulking around Craigslist....
So - how do YOU think I should search for friends?
wanderings, ponderings, and writings
wanderings, ponderings, and writings
The random mutterings, thoughts, dreams, hopes, writings, and general confusion of a 40-something misplaced desert dweller.
About Me
- wordwitch
- Washington, DC
- Happily married, 40+, pagan, avid reader, puppy parent. Tumbling through internal chaos, spiritual turmoil, and a touch of physical quandary.
Blogs I recommend
- About Some Boys
- Ambulance Driver
- Atomic Nerds
- Following Your Bliss
- From The Midwest
- Infinite Connections
- Intangible Arts
- Lettuce Eating
- Looking 2 Live
- Mouse Medicine
- Musings of a Highly Trained Monkey
- My Notes On This Grand Experiment Called Life
- Poofygoo
- Random Acts Of Reality
- Shadows and Light
- The Gods are Bored
- The Gold Puppy
- Throwing Hammers
4 comments:
The missus and I would LOVE to play some board games with you. Of course, there is that matter of several hundred miles of separation. I guess that doesn't qualify us as local after all. Sigh...
In fact, our closest friends are mostly out of state. Part of the problem with having lived in multiple states, I guess. We have good friends in Michigan, Baltimore, DC, AZ, and most places that don't have IL in the address. A few, yes. But not so much around the neighborhood. Now Su... yep, she's making plenty of friends. School will do that. But between parenting and work, not too many other opportunities.
In fact, I had a long-time friend over this weekend. Hadn't seen him in over 3 years. Met the new missus and everything. Had a wonderful time. Made me realize how much I miss that "friend" nearby.
Hang in there. Work will be calling soon. And perhaps even opportunities for friendships. Given your nature and personality, that should not be difficult. Some people have a way of making others comfortable right away. You have that ability. Now you just need someone ready to receive... :-)
And congratulations. Best wishes for a successful new start in the work force.
You guys just gotta move to DC, dagnabit.
Hmmm... Let's see. DC or Colorado? Something tells me that, given the opportunity...
No substitute for those mountains and running trails that you don't have to drive to access.
But, alas, for now we remain firmly entrenched in the midwest. Groan.
are there any classes you could join, like language, or art or something? there are lots of local knitting (Stitch and bitch) groups over here - thats a great way to meet people
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